My wife is a great source of information and inspiration and I value her input into my spiritual considerations at the highest level.Mrs P doesn’t like or seek the attention that some people do. She considers things carefully and will often offer nuggets of wisdom at the time when they are needed. They are delivered in a forthright and honest manner. Recently she has said a couple of things that have really struck a chord. Number one was valuing yourself and your time at the highest level and number two one or two issues over the years that have been a battle for me may not in fact need any more tinkering with, they are because they just are. It got me thinking about self worth and perspective. If you don’t value yourself, who will?. Despite one’s best efforts at times somethings aren’t resolvable so a stage of acceptance is needed and once successfully completed this can then lead to closure and then progress can be made.
I often talk about mind management because personally things I have over analysed over the years have been as a result of considering what others may think about me. It is like writing a play that involves others but you play all the roles, plus produce and direct it. This means there is no room for others input as this is all being constructed in your own mind. If we accept this as the case then we can realise we can effectively change the outcome of our thought processes. Also if we realise that often other people haven’t even noticed what is going on with us as they are too busy with their own stuff. I always find a way to challenge the monkey chatter in my mind when it throws up these scenarios. I ask for evidence and usually there isn’t any. If there is, I can structure a response to change the outcomes.
In the past I have had my battles with lack of confidence and also wars with low mood and mood swings. I have learned to recognise triggers and also found closure by accepting that this isn’t all negative as it is part of me and my eclectic personality. My moods really help at times with my creativity. What was once seen as a defence mechanism or a mask to hide behind is now recognised as part of me that I want to embrace. It is in essence my product of me, who I am and what I present to the outside world. I am by nature a stubborn person with a lot of willpower and in my mind this makes it hard for me to be defeated. That determined streak always get’s up, shows up and at times shouts get up, this allows me to move forward and get on with things.When I talk, advise, guide it is always from a personal standpoint. In my mind there is no mental battle that you can’t overcome if you believe in your own personal power and the product of you.
As I mentioned earlier the product of you is quite simply who you are, what makes you you and the way you appear as you present yourself to others.I always look for examples to illustrate my points so I would like you to imagine you are going for a job interview. For most people this would involve researching the job you are going for , preparing yourself mentally for any questions that might head your way. Ultimately you have a short window of opportunity to present your best qualities to a potential employer who will then decide if you are a right fit for the position based on your presentation and how you sell yourself. You are the product that you are selling, speak clearly passionately and highlight your better qualities. You are then more than likely to impress the judges. Consider the flip side, mumble, look around absentmindedly, don’t demonstrate or don’t show any personal pride. You can make a decision easy for the employer to make, thanks but no thanks.
Life isn’t easy so a good first impression is important as it is how you will be remembered. Something to consider is there is no such thing as perfection. You do the best that you can do with the information and the skill set that you have at any one time. No matter how much people advise, guide or mentor it is your personal responsibility to decide how you interpret this information. I repeat your progress is down to you. Only you can make that decision when your personal circumstances have reached a point where they are no longer tolerable. If what we are doing is no longer working then we need to change what we are doing. When you construct a reason/excuse for not doing something the subconscious mind accepts this as fact and you don’t progress and you have made this so.
When you present yourself to others you are inviting very many different energies to interact with you.Start to notice what is the norm, what do you attract towards you. Realise some people will value you and others won’t. How you react to the stimuli going on around you will aid or hinder you as you negotiate life’s pathways. People like people who are like themselves. As you send out your thoughts and energies the universe reflects back. Do not accept lower valuations of the self. Another consideration for me as I observe people is when some put themselves up as a guide or mentor/coach and then adopt a do as I say not as I do approach. People will soon lose faith if you adopt that mentality. Be you and be proud to be so.
Commitment to oneself is another big consideration. Committing wholly to yourself time and energy wise is a lot of work, know that you are capable of doing this.Realise also that major change takes time and dedication, very rarely are there overnight successes. Trust in yourself. How you act and how you present yourself to others will need regular evaluation and maintenance. Simply put check in on yourself and evaluate your progress based on the evidence presented to you. Always believe in your own personal power because if you don’t, how can you expect anybody else to have that faith in you. If you accept failure or frequently use the word trying (expecting a shortcoming) as the norm then how can you expect the universe to respond in a positive way.
Like the rest of the world I am experiencing the impact of rising prices. The further afield I travel the more I notice that more people want me to travel to their area as the work that I do is having a positive impact on people. This is what I love doing but like with everything this costs time and money and as a business you cannot survive on good wishes and kind comments alone. Recently I have raised some of my prices to accommodate the extra distance travelled. It has not been an easy decision. My biggest lesson from this has been to value yourself , do not try and decide what a client can and cannot afford as recently my interpretation and perspective of this has been way off the mark. Clients will vote with their feet anyway. Price isn’t always a consideration, my guidance is to go towards the product or person that suits your personal needs. I will always consider others positions which is why I offer different reading options but it will no longer be the deciding factor. When you realise that people don’t pay you for your skill they pay you for your time and this time cannot be bought back you should reach a moment of realisation. If you can get what you need at a fraction of the cost then go there,cheaper doesn’t always equate to better. From the bottom of my heart what I want is for people to be able to negotiate their pathways in life and be happy. If I can be that conduit for change then I am grateful if I can’t then there will be others that can.
In closing I am very grateful for all the support, kind comments and the recognition of the work that I do. I will always remain humble but will no longer justify myself to anybody, this is my life, my product of me and I sincerely believe it is my life’s purpose to help guide others. My thoughts are just my thoughts and I always desire to inspire. I leave you with my tagline “I am what I am, I do what I do, I am just me”.
Bright blessings the waistcoatman.